By Dr. John C. Maxwell
Leadership is about change. If you need no change, you need no leader. In times of change, people seek out more and better leaders. Those successful sought-out leaders embrace the following thought: “The best reformers the world has ever known are those who began with themselves.”
Mahatma Gandhi said, “We must be the change that we envision.”
Tolstoy said, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
The following comments are about personal change:
1. One person cannot change another person.
When I started as a young leader, I thought that a leader could change the people; and boy, did I work at it. I said, “All right, I’m going to give them thoughts, ideas, and principles; and I’m going to change people.”
After several years, I awakened to the thought that the only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but I cannot change you. You see, I am responsible to you but I am not responsible for you; and there is a world of difference between those two. I am responsible for teaching you good leadership, I am responsible for sharing things that can help add value to your life; but you are the only one who can take responsibility to change yourself, and that is what this whole article is about.
2. Most people need to look at the way that they look at change.
How many times have you heard somebody say, “I sure hope things will change.” The only way things will change for me is when I change. It has nothing to do with hope. You can’t just say, “Well, I just hope things will change around me,” and expect results. The only way that things will change for me is when I change.
I have also heard this before, “I don’t know why I’m this way.” Well, you are the way you are because that is the way you want to be. Let’s expose it for what it really is.
3. When you make the right personal changes, other things begin to turn out right.
So when people say, “I’d like things to turn out better for me, I’d like things to turn out right, I’d like things to turn out better in the organization, or in my family,” I say to them, “Start by making personal changes.”
The following are six steps to successful personal change:
1. When you change your thinking you change your beliefs.
2. When you change your beliefs you change your expectations.
3. When you change your expectations you change your attitude.
4. When you change your attitude you change your behavior.
5. When you change your behavior you change your performance.
6. When you change your performance, you change your life!
Worry has been described as “interest paid on trouble before it comes due.” One of America’s worst enemies is worry. Worry is like a rocking chair, it requires a lot of energy and it gets you nowhere. Leo Buscaglia said, “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
Question: Are you a worrier? Americans take more pills to forget more worries about more things than ever before and more than any other nation in history. That’s bad. According to Dr. Charles Mayo, “Worry affects the circulation and the whole nervous system. I’ve never known a man who died from overwork, but I’ve known many who have died from doubt.” Doubt always creates worry and, in most cases, lack of information raises the doubt.
Mathematically speaking, it really doesn’t make sense to worry. Psychologists and much research tells us that roughly 40% of what we worry about will never happen and 30% has already happened. Additionally, 12% of our worries are over unfounded health concerns. Another 10% of our worries involve the daily miscellaneous fretting that accomplishes nothing. That leaves only 8%. Plainly speaking, Americans are worrying 92% of the time for no good reason and if Dr. Mayo is right, it’s killing us.
One simple solution that will reduce your worry is this: Don’t worry about what you can’t change. Example: For a number of years I’ve flown in excess of 200,000 miles a year. On occasion, flights are canceled or delayed. As I write this article, I’m sitting on the runway waiting for my gate to clear. If I worry or get angry it will change nothing. If I take constructive action and finish this article, I’m ahead of the game. That’s a positive way to use the energy that would have been wasted on anger, frustration, or worrying.
The message is clear: If you don’t like your situation in life, don’t fret or worry – do something about it. Worry less, act more.
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INDIANAPOLIS (WISH) – Cell companies say they’re trying to manage data on the nation’s networks, and they’re doing it by dialing down some customers’ service to something similar to those old dial up speeds. It’s called throttling.
“It’s kind of like a car, when you throttle it back, when you slow it down a little bit,” explained T-Mobile Store Manager David Ellinghausen.
Most cell companies are doing it. Verizon calls the practice “optimizing the network.”
Throttling usually only affects the top 5 percent of all data users nationwide. If you’re using too much data in your cell area you could be a target.
AT&T will slow customers down when they hit the data peak, and keep the slow pace for the rest of the billing cycle.
Dozens of viewers wrote to us on our Facebook page, some telling us they’ve been throttled before, and charged extra fees for what is supposed to be “unlimited” service.
“The reason we only slow them down instead of cutting them off or charging them more is so that it’s completely unlimited, cause it is unlimited for the customer,” added Ellinghausen with T-Mobile.
AT&T told us their most recent numbers show .5 percent of their total smartphone customer base was affected by the policy.
How much can you use before you get throttled? It all depends on what plan you have, and how many other users are on the network at the same time.
With T-Mobile, If you have a 2 gigabyte plan, that means you can watch about eight hours of movies per month, and load 16,000 web pages. If you have a 5 gigabyte plan, that means you can watch 20 hours of movies per month, and load 40,000 web pages. If you have a 10 gigabyte plan that means you can watch 40 hours of movies per month, and load 80,000 web pages.
T-Mobile offered the following tips to avoid getting throttled:
- Switch to Wi-Fi when possible.
- Don’t stream as much music or as many movies.
- Keep in mind most cell companies will send you a warning text message when you’re close to using too much data.